And suddenly you’re standing there with a baby in your arms. From wanting a baby to pregnancy to motherhood: Bringing a baby into the world is one big roller coaster. Joris, 32, husband of Justin, 33, was on a plane back from New York when she gave birth to their baby five weeks ago. They are now Basile’s proud parents.
“Pregnancy was nothing but a piece of cake,” says Justine. “In 2020 we had to deal with two pregnancy losses. I was working in the COVID ICU at the time, and it was obviously very stressful. I don’t know if that had anything to do with it, but after the last curettage, it was There were complications that required me to go under the knife.After that it was no longer possible to conceive naturally, so we went to a fertility clinic.
“At first I started with hormone therapy, but after a few months it turned out that it wasn’t working,” says Justine. Then we moved on to IVF. The first time I thought it was so weird. I lay on a bed with my legs open with all sorts of people around me such as a midwife, gynecologist, assistant and a student I didn’t know and it was done in just a minute. I felt so helpless, but fortunately Joris was by my side.
Joris reacted differently to the failed insemination. While he always remained positive, I always ended up in a negative spiral, such that we became more and more distant from each other.
“Once you get home, the pain sets in, because then you have to wait,” says Justine. “The first time I woke up a little nauseous, of course I thought it was about time.” But the stomach cramps unfortunately indicated my period. At that moment your world falls apart, because of course you want to be pregnant so badly. I wondered for a long time why it had to be this way, because my husband and I were checked out and we’re fine. But of course no one can answer that.“
“We kept gathering the courage to undergo another vaccination,” says Justine. “Joris reacted differently to the failed insemination. While he always remained positive, I always ended up in a negative spiral, such that we became more and more distant from each other. I really didn’t see it getting any better and was convinced we would never be able to have a baby. So we decided to talk to a psychologist and this helped us to communicate better and find each other again.
“After the fourth insemination, I had enough,” says Justine. I needed some time off and went to Malaga on my own for a week. It was the best decision ever, because you came home completely relaxed. After 2 weeks, the last vaccination also turned out to be successful, because I had a positive pregnancy test in my hands! Joris and I didn’t dare get too excited at first for fear of something going wrong again. It wasn’t until I was five years old that we heard on the ultrasound that our baby was doing his best, that we dared tell everyone. We can finally be happy and shout from the rooftops, what a relief! “
“My pregnancy was very smooth,” says Justine. I had no diseases, I was allowed to eat everything and I only had a small belly so I could do everything as before. That’s why I really wanted to be pregnant. The child thought otherwise, because he was born five weeks early. It was unexpected that my husband was abroad. He was traveling with friends in New York when the waters broke. As I was Googling what to take with me to the hospital, I called Joris to tell him the good news.
The baby was born five weeks before birth. It was unexpected that my husband was abroad. He was traveling with friends in New York when the waters broke.
“My family lives in Wallonia, and luckily Joris’ dad was able to take me to the hospital,” Justine laughs. I was going to do everything I could to ensure that our baby wasn’t born until the next day, because Joris would be back after that. So I did everything in my power to get started and not get out of the hospital bed. Meanwhile, I was video chatting with my husband who was still walking around New York and showed me skyscrapers (Laughs). ‘
“At night the contractions suddenly started getting stronger,” says Justine. I tried to ignore it, but the midwife saw I was already nine centimeters wide, so baby was on its way! I called Joris one last time, he was ready to go up to the airport. At that moment, we realized that unfortunately he would not be at the birth of his first child. Luckily I got a good help from my mom and twenty minutes later our son was born. I was allowed to take it out myself and my mother cut the umbilical cord. Wonderful moment!
“Basile was immediately transferred to the incubator,” says Justine. He weighed barely 2.1 kilos and was 44cm tall, but he was fine. I took a picture and sent it to Joris, who immediately replied that he was over the moon, both literally and figuratively. Celebrate on the plane with champagne (Laughs). The next day Joris was standing in my room with a huge bouquet of flowers. We flew into each other’s arms and tears flowed freely.
“The first weeks were happy, because Basile slept so well and ate like a horse,” says Justine. Joris also got four weeks off and we really found our balance as a new family. When Joris had to go back to work, I completely lost the Hulk. Suddenly Basil began to cry a lot, he no longer wanted to sleep and was constantly hungry. Hell was!
When Joris had to go back to work, I completely lost the Hulk. Suddenly Basil began to cry a lot, he no longer wanted to sleep and was constantly hungry.
“I was completely exhausted,” Justine said. My husband’s parents suggested that I accompany them to Spain for a week, which was my salvation. I can deliver the Basile without any worries and get some sleep back on my own. Slowly I found a new rhythm, in which Joris helps as much as possible, because I can’t take care of Basile on my own. Right now, we don’t know if we want another child of ours. We are also thinking of adopting a child or to foster a foster child, But at the moment it is too early to decide on anything.
Joris and I went on a trip to Malaga. We stayed there for three wonderful weeks. I can rest and Joris can work remotely in the pool. During the day I went out alone and in the evening we enjoyed the time we had left together just the two of us. On the penultimate day, he arranged a photo session on a small beach. Normally, this isn’t something we’d ever have, but this was a unique moment. I am really happy with the result.
Photographer: Photography by Luna Chilesta
One of my best friends Stevie is the proud godmother to Basile. I asked her with homemade cookies, I love to bake!
Stephen is the proud godfather. I also asked him with delicious cookies and a bottle of wine. He also said a resounding yes (pun intended).
Our dog Lola is an adopted dog from Romania. She was severely abused and is still very worried. With Basile’s arrival, she completely blossomed. She sees her child and wants to be with him all the time. She watches him, even when he’s still in my tummy, and it’s nice to see him! I’m sure they will become best friends!
At the birth announcement, you see Joris and me, accompanied by our foster animals. The bees symbolize the four inoculations we had to undergo in order to obtain a basile. Two planes for the two kids we lost and the world because we both love to travel. Card design by Ann-sophie Snoeck of Atelier Surtout.
Facetiming from a hospital bed
Facetiming from a hospital bed
As I lay on my hospital bed in the delivery room, Joris showed me a piece of New York.
Champagne on board
Champagne on board
Joris celebrated the happy news that he had become a dad on board with his friends and lots of champagne.
Basile still had to lie down in the neonatology incubator under a special blue light for a while.
I showered Basile with hugs.
The moment we saw each other again was very emotional. We were parents!
Basile made his first trip to Spain when he was seven weeks old. He slept the whole trip and thoroughly enjoyed the Spanish sun.
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