Sophie met her great love through the second love

Since Sophie, 52, and her ex-husband had an open relationship, she was active for several years on Second Love, a dating site for men and women looking for a sexy relationship. For Sophie, it was just lust, until she met Andre in 2020. “I don’t know what it was, but right away it just felt so familiar and natural between us.”

Sophie: “Actually, I never intended to fall in love with anyone. I had a nice open relationship with my then boyfriend and we let each other have adventures and love partners. And that worked really well for us.
To meet new people I’ve been dating through Second Love for a while. There I met many nice guys who, like me, were looking for a sexual date. The intention was clear. It was only about physical contact, not love. And that’s what I was like when I saw Andre pass by in February 2020. A tall, skinny guy with beautiful curls. He wrote that he had been married for 25 years and that his marriage was no longer going well. Especially in the sexual sphere, he and his wife can no longer find each other. That was why he was only looking for an adventure for once. Although I felt sorry for his wife, I immediately felt sympathy for Andrei. He looked very gentle and calm and there was something touching about his image. That’s why I responded immediately when he sent me a message.”

very familiar

“Soon we were talking to each other and after a week of chatting we met in real life. Safe outside our homes, about forty kilometers away. Because we lived 80 kilometers apart, we met right in the middle, in a cozy restaurant. Before I knew it, we were chatting.” Infinitely. As if we had known each other for a hundred years. I don’t know what it was, but immediately it felt very familiar and natural between us. I could also clearly see that Andrei came from a long-term relationship. For example, he was nervous A bit and he said several times that he hadn’t dated in a long time. With his rosy cheeks he looked like a little boy who was always very shy. And that, in turn, I found him very attractive.”

two times a week

“We didn’t kiss that night. I wanted to, but Andre was very polite and only gave me three kisses on the cheek. Once home, we chatted non-stop and that same week we planned a second date, this time in a hotel. This is where we were.” We had sex in it for the first time. We liked it so much that we soon saw each other twice a week. Since we were in lockdown it wasn’t hard to leave the house. I just told my ex and Andre made an excuse that he really had to go to The office. Then we were in bed together.”

suddenly on the street

“After five months of dating, Andrei’s wife found out. She had read some of my messages on his phone and was angry and sad. Point blank, I asked if he was cheating. Andrei didn’t deny it. In fact, he indicated that he wanted a divorce and temporarily went to live somewhere else. Another. Not long after that he asked me to date. As romantic as it could be, he really used those words. I said yes right away. Although that was never the intention of either of us, we fell in love with each other.
Andrei made me realize that I was no longer happy with my partner at that time. That’s why I broke off my relationship and it was a huge blow to me. Although he had at least five girlfriends next to me and he knew that I often went out with Andrei, he hadn’t expected such a big decision. He angrily said that me and my three children (they were eighteen, nineteen, and twenty and had a different father) should be out of the house in ten days. Unfortunately, I did not have the right to our house. The house in which we lived belonged to him and so I suddenly found myself on the street with my children.

Not sad

“Because I couldn’t find another home so quickly, I decided to rent a motorhome at a campsite. I was there with three guys. Luckily, they didn’t feel sorry for me breaking up. They had a big problem with my ex-wife, which is why they were so glad I was gone.” Even when I told them about Andre, they responded positively. They said ‘Mom’s fine.’ ‘Do what makes you happy.'”


“Meanwhile Andrei and I were still seeing each other. He also stayed at a campsite, but in a completely different county. When he got his house back a month later (bought his wife) he asked me if I wanted to come and live with him. We were together a lot anyway. “So it was a waste of money if I stayed at the camp site. I didn’t hesitate a moment. I felt so good between us, I was 100 percent sure Andre was the one for me. And so I moved in with him with my three kids.”


Of course it took a bit of getting used to for everyone – Andrei also has a child – but fortunately it soon felt normal. Now all the children live in rooms because of their studies, so Andrei and I have the kingdom all to ourselves. Things are going well between us. What We are still madly in love with each other and according to his friends, Andre is sparkling again, something he hasn’t apparently done for a long time.
I also feel very good with Andrei by my side. I never thought I would meet the love of my life through Second Love, but I really can’t imagine my life without him.”

Text: Renee Brewer
Photographer: Getty Images
Some names have been changed for privacy reasons. The real names are known to the editors.

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