We all know that one friend or family member is always late. Very annoying to you, but also to him or her. They can’t always do something about it themselves. We explain what is happening.
Find an American Psychologist
Many studies have been done on why someone is structurally backward. The result is also different. Search It is based on a study by American psychologist Jeff Conti. He divides people into two groups: polychromatic and monochromatic. Polychrons prefer to do many things at the same time, and monochrons prefer to work on one task at a time and only start something new when it is 1e completed.
This also translates to being on time. The psychologist says that Monochrons adhere to what is called clock time. So they always arrive on time. Polychrones are the latecomers. They keep a greater appreciation for time, which he calls event time.
People who arrive late can’t always be described as messy, disorganized or rude, according to an English-language study. RTL News write about. “We also need to look at the brains of latecomers,” English researcher Harriet Milott told the BBC. Another English researcher, Diana DeLonzor, explains that people who often cannot be on time actually assume they will be late. This can be a result of psychological problems such as anticipation. “Out of fear, they put off work or appointment so often that they don’t get it done on time,” says DeLonzor.
There are also people who are not very good at estimating time. For example, how long does it take him or her to drive from home to work or how much time does it take someone to get out of the house. Think about putting on shoes, putting on a coat, maybe going to the toilet and saying hello to any of the housemates. This has a scientific name, the planning fallacy. These people really can’t estimate how long something will take.
Consequences of being late
However, the notorious latecomers can in some cases arrive on time. For example, think of a plane that needs to be caught and not waited on. Or in some cases also the wedding or funeral of someone special. Then it often works. According to Grace Bassey, author of a book on latecomers, this has to do with the moments when you become confrontational. “We can be on time, if it matters. Once there are consequences associated with being late, like missing a plane, we are more aware of time.” Men’s health. Once these consequences are gone, we fall more quickly into the habit of being late. This can be seen, for example, in social matters, where being late is less bad. This is why some friends tend to be late to parties or gatherings, but less so at work.
7 types of latecomers
according to Journal of Psychology There are different types of latecomers. They name 7 different types, true latecomers may recognize themselves in several types. It’s about the excuses, the regulars, the deadline surfers, the hedonists, the rebels, the stray professors, and the avoidants. In other words: people who always have an excuse for everything, do too many things at once, plan and finish everything at the last minute, don’t want to make sacrifices, don’t want to conform to society’s rules, are easily distracted or afraid and have a bad self-image.
Tips for dealing with latecomers
There are tips for those who are easily annoyed by others who arrive late. As you can read above, it’s not always something anyone can do to be late. It is often unconscious and the other person does not want to waste time. So don’t take it personally if someone is late. Also tell the person if you are upset about being late. You can also attach consequences by agreeing to wait a certain number of minutes and then leave if the person is not around.
What can also work is complimenting the person if they can show up on time. And be patient too. If someone wants to change behavior, it takes time. If it really doesn’t work, you can also cheat on the start time. Let’s say someone is 15 minutes late by default, agreeing to it earlier. This way you don’t have to wait unnecessarily long and the other person is “on time”.
(Source: Quest, RTL Nieuws, Men’s Health, Psychologie Magazine. Photo: Shutterstock)