Op1 about the friendship between a woman’s killer and a child

Sounds like an implausible scenario: the friendship of a man who kills your child and cuts off your hand. Yet it is one of the true stories from Moritz Chabot’s book, in which he writes about unlikely friendships. joined yesterday in 1 to tell about this.

to around the gorge He hopes to find an “antidote” for the polarization currently taking place in society. Emmanuel and Alice, the heroes of this chapter, are found in Rwanda. He made a documentary of the same name for this incredible story in collaboration with the Employers’ Organization and the aid organization World Vision.

The conflict between the Hutus and the Tutsis

Chabot says that in 1994, two population groups in Rwanda became diametrically opposed to each other: Hutus and Tutsis. In general, Hutus believe that the Tutsis, a small elite in Rwanda, about 10 percent of the population, are deliberately undermining the country. They control money, politics and institutions. They’re out to keep the Hutus underground.”

Emmanuel believes in this story as a child. A major scene takes place while he’s still in elementary school. A teacher asks a few Tutsis in the class to stand up and says, “The Tutsis are a very small minority, but they run the country, they have the money and they are in charge here.” From that moment on, Emmanuel no longer believed that his classmates were just boys and girls. “And that’s where the hate begins,” Chabot says. “To understand how he believes in this hatred, to understand how he is capable of committing terrible sins, you have to talk to him. Trying to provide insight into how life got off the rails.”

The conflict is going from bad to worse. Finally, the soldiers ordered Emmanuel to kill the Tutsis. If he refuses at first, the soldiers start shooting at him. This causes Emmanuel to start killing himself, and so comes the day in question when he kills Alice’s nine-month-old baby, chops off her hand and cuts off her face. In prison, Emmanuel becomes conscious and communicates with Alice.

He was the first to ask for forgiveness

Alice in the documentary: “I prayed to God a lot that someone would come and ask for forgiveness. I actually couldn’t believe that I would be able to forgive someone who killed my family and my child. And so you defamed me. But I can forgive him because he was the first to ask for forgiveness.”

According to Chabot, the fact that this unexpected friendship eventually developed does not mean that Alice did not have a lifelong trauma. “All of these people have of course gone through a certain journey. It’s not like after one day they’re thinking, ‘Okay, we’re friends again.’ Everything is forgotten. It was a very long process. Trauma, post-traumatic stress disorder. “

Chabot in Op1: “Forgiveness doesn’t happen overnight”

The author explains that tolerance is in stages. “The first step is that she even knows who did it to her. She didn’t know it at first. She’s afraid that all Hutus are evil. She goes outside, and she sees a Hutu neighbour, and on the other side is another person, in the village square she sees a Hutu. Can For anyone to be evil. The moment Emmanuel came and said to her, “I did it, it is on my conscience.” Then evil became one man: Emmanuel. This man can ask them questions.”

She does not do it immediately: Alice is afraid the moment Emmanuel informs her of it. In fact, she is in the hospital for ten days. Come and then feel the need to ask these questions. This is a critical step. It seems pointless, but she wants to know what happened.”

What is also crucial to tolerance, according to Chabot, is that Emmanuel no longer believes that all Tutsis are enemies. “And that Alice can now tell her own story. Saying what he did to her and how she deals with her life and her wounds. What it means to her. Then she chose that forgiveness, but that’s after all these initial stages. Forgive him not so much, but to himself. That’s what all these victims are saying.” Eight: “It’s not so much about the perpetrator, and I don’t want that poison, hate, and resentment in my body anymore.”

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