Father: I have the impression that children are learning less social skills these days. Approaching an adult, shaking hands, and introducing yourself by mentioning your name seem to happen less and less. I see a lot of kids locking themselves up in their devices. They can also easily cancel an appointment using their smartphone via the app instead of calling precisely. You need that compliment to move forward in the world. It is precisely such “good manners” that can liberate disadvantaged children, they are equivalent to social relations. Shouldn’t parents teach their children that? Shouldn’t schools be paying attention to this if this is not being done enough at home? “
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bass delivery: “Etiquette reached its peak half a century ago. The formalities began to equate to ‘hypocrisy.’ It was about each person’s ability to be themselves. Then you tackle the problem immediately, because the widely supported etiquette gives the individual in the company something to hold on to. Morality is social glue.Nowadays you often hear someone shout, “I’m going to do it this way,” and then wave a rag at everyone at once.
In addition, there is something beautiful about greeting. Recognizing someone for a moment, a short moment of interest is important in society.
“How do you shape that? Handshakes have been unusual since Corona, also because young people are becoming conscious in their guard around the elderly. But we can also show that we notice each other in other ways. Look at it, call by name. There are still many parents who teach their children Being considerate of others, which is the ultimate moral reason.
“It is also possible to make good agreements about this in the classroom. It is very helpful to allow children to set their own rules because in this case they are more inclined to follow them. How do we want to interact with each other? Shall we shake hands and say ‘Good morning’? Teachers can involve parents By an evening with parents, also prefers people who do not usually come.
I doubt whether these manners are sufficient to rise in life. Communication has radically changed as a result of digitization, young people simply no longer use the phone, you can not stop, it has its own dynamics. ”
Heysel Newlink: “In Dutch vocational education, these types of ethics have a place in the curriculum to prepare students for the job market. More attention is paid to this in vmbo than in gymnasiums.
“We also have to pay attention to context when evaluating behavior: a young person who shows little social behavior in or outside school can be very common in the training period. This requires that young people be able to change behavior, and there is inequality in that. School can help students In it, for example: what clothes are appropriate and when, and which salutations fit and where?
“What I think is more important is that more attention is given in vocational education to students’ participation in the design of our society. Not only are they being asked to adapt to all kinds of standards, but they also learn that standards are subject to change and that they have a role in that. However, many young people In (V)MBO they don’t feel they have any influence on this. You often hear “I’m just a pre-vocational secondary student.” The real liberation lies less in etiquette and more in encouraging critical participation among young people.”