Will people finally start working longer hours in the Netherlands? Secretly, hospital administrators and childcare directors hope the government will take things easy with a purchasing power reform. Because perhaps this inflationary monster will finally provide some relief when it comes to the structural shortage of nurses, caregivers, teachers and solar panel installers.
The question of whether people will work more is the question. Culture is a factor in decision making that should not be underestimated. It’s like shower water pulling your arms and legs unnoticed. Families would rather save on picnics and a cozy indoor climate than often take the kids away.
Journalist Tamar Stelling has put the numbers together again correspondent. All causes of inequality between men and women (level of education, gender-biased managers, government policies) decreased; The only remaining factor is a good baby for (heterosexual) women. Once they have children, they work less, like a law of nature. You can draw women to the top by their poetry, favor the Nobel Prize in Literature and other awards, prioritize job opportunities and set quotas – if the difference isn’t made at home, a dead horse will be pulled.
By the way, progress has been made at home: thanks to microwaves, dishwashers and birth control pills, women had plenty of time. But the kids largely negated those gains in time. They are fewer in number – yet they take longer. Throughout the Western world, the current generation of parents, led by highly educated mothers, spend two to four times as much time as their parents.
how is that possible? Would more people enjoy building a Lego castle with their children than reading online about amylobolanese Gardnerella vaginalis like me? Or do a large percentage of my peers think that an intensive parenting method produces better children? This is also possible.
By constantly pestering them with all kinds of moral lessons about cooperation, art, love, and nature, they become more balanced and can also, with a little extra guidance, avoid that creepy MBO. Purely evolutionary/economic reason, an investment that pays off.
By the way, the science is very contradictory about this. There is a shockingly slight difference in thought or personality between day care, boarding school, and cuddling children. They don’t seem to care about all these investments.
I am afraid that we spend more time with our children mainly because of the firm belief that this is how it should be. Because he is virtuous. Just as you have to fix your own duct tape, you have to vacuum your house, you have to cook your own meals, and you have to take care of your kids.
It wasn’t the top feminist activist Anya Muellenbilt who joined last week Norwegian Refugee Council Ever wondered out loud why a person would have children if you outsourced them? I wonder how much gains she made for women from her feminism that wiped them out with this woman-undermining question. Does she have less understanding of the decision of a full-time working woman to become a mother than a part-time working woman who does the same?
This question leads us to the deepest conviction that as a woman you belong to your children and that you are a lesser mother when you “outsource” them.
Let’s just ignore this folklore. If you as a mother can’t avoid working more in the near future, then know how deeply the cultural motivation was behind the decision in any case to work less so far. And know that the exact amount of hours you spend with your children is ultimately irrelevant. The only important questions: Are children safe? Do they know peace and order? How is the weather at home? Do you have a good relationship with them?
The rest, the seawater pulling your arms, the sounds, even if they come from überfeminists, you just have to ignore.
Roseanne Hertzberger He is a microbiologist.
A version of this article also appeared in the October 8, 2022 newspaper