The temperatures these days are causing heated discussions in the stadium. Marjolin van Pavel, a postdoctoral researcher in history at the University of Antwerp and a member of the feminist think tank Furia, thinks it’s a good idea for young people not to simply accept the dress code at school. “When adults tell a girl that her shirt has a plunging neckline, they are telling her that her body is viewed from a sexual perspective.”
A student from the third secondary school at Montfort College in Rottselaer in Flemish Brabant has reopened the discussion about the school’s dress code with her response to the administration. Beatrix Yavuz (14 years old) believes the dress code disproportionately targets girls.
For teens, discovering and creating their own identity is an important part of their lives. They enjoy expressing themselves through clothing and exploring their own and social boundaries. Unfortunately, girls also face double standards.
“The dress code creates the problem it must address: it makes girls sexual.”
On the one hand, it is expected to be attractive. The current beauty ideals that we see on the streets, in Social media And looking at modeling how that also involves a degree of sexuality. Despite all the so-called sexual liberation, girls are still judged on this basis. Teenage girls find that their bodies are suddenly seen through a sexual lens, not only by their peers, but also by adults who show a keen interest in supervising those bodies. Girls should dress “decent” and not “revealing” or “abusive” so that no one is distracted by their bodies.
Today there is a long history of thinking that men have unbridled sexual impulses. It was the duty of women to protect men from themselves, above all, not to arouse animal impulses. If a guy can’t “rein in” himself, then it must be her. Didn’t her ankle show? Behold the long tradition blaming the victim Shifting blame from the perpetrator to the victim. As a result, different rules were applied to men and women. Not only did men have more freedom of movement, they were also more free to display their bodies. Is today’s navel yesterday’s ankle?
Not only do girls suffer from this because, for example, they get kicked out of the classroom, but it also creates so much focus on their bodies that the fun play with clothes becomes a darker aspect. By taking responsibility for the impact of it they happened in others For girls, you make it very difficult for them not to make themselves blaming the victim To do when something unpleasant happens to them.
When adults tell a girl that her cute shirt is a split They made her realize that her body is viewed from a sexual perspective
This is the age when girls not only feel that sexual appearance is burning their bodies, but where they also have to hear “jokes” about their bodies from their peers, being yelled at in the street by “old people” and feel the first unwelcome hand on the buttocks or the chest. Also in adolescence, the sexual boundaries of many girls are crossed, often by acquaintances from their environment.
When adults tell a girl that her cute shirt is a split They made her realize that her body is viewed from a sexual perspective. This contributes to a feeling of insecurity. For example, a sixteen-year-old girl told me that she feels very uncomfortable when a teacher, an adult, indicates that she has split she has. It’s just a nice top for her. “I have a feeling this also creates the impression that some of the clothes are considered sexy and that you might be less likely to wear something like that later on an outing alone.”
Thus, these kinds of rules create the very problem they need to address: they sexualize girls. Instead of reproducing and teaching outdated double standards, schools should be encouraged to focus on dialogue about their policies and freedom of expression and choice. Young people would likely be better off if space was created for critical reflection on the influence of mass media and popular culture on gender identity or the impact of marketing and consumption. The focus should be on respecting others regardless of their clothing. You can also tell that the responsibility for one’s (sexual) outlook and feelings rests solely with the person themselves. Girls don’t have a right to prevent this from happening to others, but it’s up to others to handle it appropriately. It is also appropriate to respect men and boys: they are not animals with uncontrollable desires.
Dress codes don’t just discriminate against girls. There are still schools that ban earrings, nail polish and makeup for boys
When young people speak out against the dress code, it is about more than expressing personal identity. It’s about the way girls feel about things and sex. It is a requirement to be heard and respected by those who often treat them as second-class citizens and display patterns of sexual, racist, class and homosexual thinking on their bodies. Dress codes don’t just discriminate against girls. There are still schools that ban earrings, nail polish, and makeup for boys. Nor should we ignore the way black girls are being sexualized in ever more extreme and younger ways. It is also incomprehensible that there are Flemish schools that boast tolerant dress codes and an open school climate, but ban headscarves.
The fact that young people are engaging in the debate cannot be commended. They demand a policy relevant to their lives, in which they are consulted and take into account the evolution of identity, gender expression and cultural diversity: the politics of their time.
Marjolin van Pavel is a member of the feminist Think Tank and Action Group Furia