Lobke broke off her relationship with Rinat after 4 months: ‘She called me cheese’

Lubke* (37) was in a relationship with. for four months Renate (32). She broke up with her ex-husband about two months ago juice (43). “You called me cheese.”


“Guus is convinced that my love affair with Renate was a stage. That this curiosity should have been out of my system, and that it made our relationship stronger. If I’m so honest, that’s not quite the case.”

“Yes, I wasn’t happy in the three years with Guus. I often thought: What now? Are we really going to get married and have children? Buy a house? Thinking about our pension? This pressure got to my throat. I thought he was too bourgeois, too nice. Then all of a sudden I bumped into Brinate at the spa.”


“I was immediately impressed; Rinat is so elegant. She doesn’t just walk, she seems to be floating. And that smile…. I felt a tingling in my stomach. In relationships I’ve always been very practical: being well compatible with someone has taken precedence over passion.”

“Guus and I get along very well. We understand each other. We have the same ambitions and want the same things, like getting married in his wealthy aunt’s mansion, an apartment in Paris and two kids. But six months ago, I suddenly had my doubts when I looked into Renate’s eyes. My heart raced.” I didn’t know exactly what I wanted, I just wanted to be with her.”

“What kind of treatment do you recommend?” I had asked her, she rubbed my hand on my neck. Fortunately, Rinat had later that afternoon for a thorough massage. I wanted to feel her everywhere and completely enjoy her soft hands on my bare body. Unfortunately, I was just a customer and she was working professionally. So I didn’t put my towel down a little more. I certainly didn’t separate my legs at all, which, to my surprise, I wanted so badly.”

Only on Funda

“You are so absent,” Joss said several times after that spa day. I waved that away, only to like Renate’s Instagram account for the umpteenth time in a moment. Were you in love? on a woman? Oh no? My apartment has just been listed on Funda and I will be buying a mansion with Guus. Then he was proposing—I know, not very spontaneously—and we would soon marry and start a family.”

“Maybe I had cold feetI thought for a moment. Or was I just curious: How’s the woman doing? To my own surprise, I found out very quickly.”

big party

“There was a big party in our town and she was there at the bar. My dear stalker,” said Rinat, referring to the fact that I loved all her Instagram photos. I looked like a teenager. She didn’t mind. Quite the contrary.

“We isolated ourselves and talked all evening: about our lives, our dreams, our wishes. It was such a wonderful feeling that she kissed me at the end of the night. And… so familiar too. As if it should have been. I glowed on the bike of the house, until Guus called to check if everything was It’s fine. I totally forgot about it.”


“Is there another one?” He asked the next day hurt. I wasn’t lying but indicated that I didn’t know anymore. That I needed space to think about the future, and I wanted to be single for a while, without stress and obligations. Sobbing, he agreed. and me? I only thought of those butterflies in my stomach, for Renate’s sake. Because yes, I texted her right away if she wanted to meet.”

“I was so selfish, I can see it now. But how I unabashedly enjoyed it. Rinat had more experience with women, and knew exactly what I liked in bed. We were always together and doing fun things. Like best friends, with a little extra. We really lived this moment. Well, me then. After four months, Rinat suddenly started talking about a family weekend that she was also invited. She indicated that she really wanted to attend my brother’s wedding. I was very shocked by that.”


“Until that moment, our love affair was our secret. A wonderful and precious secret, but it must remain that way. Rinat called me cheese because I don’t out & proud Dare to be with her. We got into a fight about it while walking her dog.”

“She was right. Part of me still wants to be with her and walk down the street holding hands. Just… I confess to my respected Christian parents and fellow decent bank branch colleagues that I would rather spend my free time with the sexy beautician… I couldn’t.”

“It was just a phase,” I lied to Guus a few weeks later, who hugged me again. I know he will propose soon, and I will accept that suggestion. I choose security and civility, and I have more trouble with that now than before. Because I know Rinat is there and I’m already secretly missing her a lot.”

*Names have been changed.

Text: Agnes Hoffmann | Photo: iStock

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