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TWELLO – Should you be showing the kids ghosts during Halloween? “No,” says SGP consultant Arko Hack in Toyo. It is simply too sinister and shocking to show children skeletons, limbs and severed skulls. “Yes,” however, many pediatric therapists say. It doesn’t hurt to show them and experience exciting things.
A group of Twello residents and businessmen are currently preparing for a Halloween party at the center, after two years that wasn’t possible due to Corona.
Everyone is looking forward and looking forward to it, says co-organizer Michael van den Hengel, but Chancellor Hack wants to stay within limits: without severed limbs, skulls on canes and skeletons on a cross. Out of respect for death and in defense of the children of Toyo.
whats the truth? “A lot of things stop and go back with the development a child is going through,” says Stephen Pont, a developmental psychologist and systems therapist. He writes columns and books on upbringing, family, and children’s development. He asserts that there is no single truth. “Kids love the game. And being scary is after all a game too. There are 4-year-olds who can handle it well and 11-year-olds who can’t sleep because of it.”
“almost spoke Can you say that a child can deal with abstractions more easily at the age of seven: then the doll gets into the corner and the child often does not believe in Sinterklaas. Because yes, can this guy really exist in seven million places at once? Pont explains.
If parents are unsure about their children’s ability to handle Halloween ghosts, they can prepare him or her for it. Making the landing softer is what Punt calls it. “Kids aren’t riding a roller coaster in the amusement park because they feel 100 percent safe there, but because they experience controlled insecurity there. There is a difference between something exciting and something that is threatening.”
Kids with anxiety disorders and victims of violence and war trauma won’t feel at home at a Halloween party, says SGP board member Hack. Because of their mental health, they have to avoid such parties, which is why the Small Grants Program called on Forest City Council three years ago to be critical when granting permits to such parties in the future.
Children should be afraid
“I think you can go a little too far with Halloween, depending on the child,” says Grace Murkes, who runs a children’s therapy practice in Arnhem. “There is a trend that children are no longer allowed to be afraid or sad, but this is not necessary. Children know what is real and what is fake.”
Where does Halloween come from?
In the distant past, the Celts in Ireland celebrated New Year’s Eve on October 31. They believed that the spirits of the dead then visited their former dwellings. In the 19th century, the celebration also reached the United States via Irish immigrants, where it became a widely celebrated holiday. Over the years, Halloween has also reached Holland: here it is celebrated every year on October 31.
According to her, children between the ages of 8 and 9 have passed the “magical stage” and know that people can die: this awareness exists. The advantage of seeing something exciting or scary is that the child learns something about how it feels.
Murkes: “This way you get to know yourself better, and things will be fine again. The fear disappears and everything goes back to normal again. Parents sometimes tend to want to solve it all, out of care and love, but this is not necessary” .
This is also what Apeldoorn pediatric therapist Miriam van Henneck says. “Kids should learn to deal with and overcome fears. It depends on the age, but kids in general like to be scared. Halloween is exciting, fun and scary. From group 4 they can see the difference between real and a fake. It just depends on how you set it up. If You create a safe environment and you’re there as a dad or mom, you can watch if it might be too exciting for your child. And then you just say, ‘We’ve seen enough, haven’t you?’ Shall we go home? “
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