Rob: “A friend gave me a job on Saturday at a shoemaker when I was 16. I cleaned up the warehouse, walked the big Dane boss, washed the ad car. My boss bought hundreds of leathers that had to be punched. I was very meticulous about it.” He saw it and offered me a job.
“My dad was fine with me getting diplomas in the shoemaker’s trade. I’ve been doing it for 45 years and still love it. No shoes are the same. Running a business isn’t fun anymore.
“Because of Corona, my country income is 60 percent of what it was. People work more at home, shoes wear out less quickly. If things go well, I will retire after six years. I haven’t had a chance to build a real pension. Not at all with what Happened in the past ten years.
The crisis came in 2008, and this has already led to its elimination. I had two employees and had to lay them off in two years. And in 2015 my wife died suddenly. She had cervical cancer. I was completely out of the world for about three years.
She was my second wife. I am still in good contact with my ex, and I have three children with her. Two years after this divorce, I called a friend of mine who lives in southeast Spain. I said: I want to live again. He said come.
“We went out and ended up in a café where he introduced me to Sole. She was immediately the woman of my life. The first second. She never learned English. I don’t know how you two managed to do this, my friend said, but you two dated all night. It was in May. I took her in October and she came to live here. We’ve been together for thirteen years.”
“When I died, my job was basically nothing. I was there, but this was it. Almost nothing came out of my hand. A close friend was running the shop at the time. A colleague of Snake would come in twice a week to finish piles of shoes that didn’t I could finish it.
“If you are self-employed, you have to solve all your problems on your own. Nobody does it for you. But then I had no choice.
For the first time in my life, I also requested my own disability insurance during that time. Three months later I got a call from a young man saying, “We think you can go back to work.” I said, “Have you lost your partner before?”
“He was able to make a psychological report. My psychiatrist imaging was a man in woolen stockings in Birkenstocks. When I got there, he figured out what was going on within ten minutes – I had to edit my picture. He referred me and got EMDR treatment. Without that help I wouldn’t have been Here as I am now.
“I get up between 8 and 8:30. My work is under my house, down the stairs and I’m there. I’m usually downstairs around 9:30, and I open from 10 to 5:30. There are days when I don’t go out because of that. I taught myself that.” Although I don’t have to go anywhere, I put on my coat after dinner and go for a walk.
„In the evening I am at least two or three times a week in the billiard room. This also comes in that bad period. If you feel like a bad night is coming, it’s okay, put your shoes on now, get a cue. It helped a lot. Then I had a distraction, a different conversation than I had in my head, and then I could sleep peacefully.
“I used to play pool almost every night. I just don’t like being alone. Now I can easily sit at home for an evening out. I paint by numbers. I have a lot of patience for this kind of thing. I don’t care about the outcome at all. It’s just for fun. Then I can sit Here on the sofa, without feeling like I have to leave. In the meantime, I’m watching football.”
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“I’ve been with my new girlfriend Anneke for five years now. At first I wanted nothing more than a house tree monster. I missed it. Just, she wasn’t ready for it yet. But I like a Latin relationship now. The psychiatrist played an important role in that. .
“I go to my girlfriend on Saturday after work. Our weekend is Sunday and Monday. Monday after dinner I leave her again.”
“When I was alone, I would sometimes lie in bed until twelve. Then I went out and turned on the TV with football. Now we eat yogurt on Sunday morning and go to the gym. I don’t mind getting up late anymore. It’s a waste of my day. We both just bought an electric bike.” We run long distances and go regularly to Utrecht and Amsterdam because her children live there.
“My kids also live in Leeuwarden. I have a good relationship with them, but they don’t visit me every week. Sometimes they come into the store when they’re in town. Every once in a while I go to eat with them. My son often shows up when he’s in town with my granddaughter. Then this jumps The little thing is all over the room here. I yelled “Grandfather. This… yeah. That’s what you do it all for.”