dating apps It can cause endless trust problems. Sometimes you think you’ve met a nice person, but then the doubt begins – are they real Not connectedor omit some rather important details?
Does this sound familiar to you? In 2015, the research agency GlobalWebIndex Research Out of 47,000 users of the dating app. They found that up to 42 percent of participants were not single. Of these, 30 percent are married and 12 percent have been in a relationship.
Marta, 38, met a man Tinder He was immediately suspicious. He just called her from his office and texted her via the app, refusing to give her his mobile number. “After a while, I found out we had some mutual friends,” she says. It turns out he is married and has two children. Fortunately, she didn’t invest much in the relationship at the time.
The same thing happened to Francesca, 27. “He just wanted to exchange messages on Telegram, he said he was having problems with Whatsapp,” she says. After several months of regular dates with the man, Francesca found out that he was engaged. “He called me desperately and asked me not to tell his fiancée,” she says. “I eventually called her, and I broke up with her.”
I heard about both stories through my Instagram group, The match and the cityWhich focuses on dating and dating apps. In these and countless other stories, the content is somewhat similar — people in relationships use apps to connect with singles, making all kinds of vague excuses about themselves and their partner.
What surprised me when reading these stories is that many people are logging into dating apps for the first time after their long-distance relationship has gone.
Luca, 35, downloaded Bumble when he moved abroad for work, although he still has a girlfriend at home. “We rarely see each other,” he says. Sex has become a problem and this is taking a toll. If I find out, I don’t know how she will react, but I use the app with great caution.”
Another reason many people point out is that they want to sleep with other people, but they don’t dare discuss this with their partners.
One user wrote on the Instagram-powered platform you won’t lie (NGL), which allows anonymous contributions, such as he decided to use dating apps for dates that his girlfriend was out of town. “I wanted to experience things I haven’t felt in a long time,” he wrote. “I loved it, but I definitely wanted to do it with someone else someday. But it was a good karma time — one of her friends caught me.”
So the traditional relationship is not suitable for everyone. Another anonymous user said, “I’m satisfied with my partner’s love, but I feel sexually frustrated if I only have sex with him.” “I don’t believe in monogamy because it is imposed by our culture and society.”
Desire for new sexual partners is common and understandable. But if you keep it hidden from your partner, problems will start. Honest communication is crucial. Because if you don’t, you will only hurt your partner. We can learn a lot from people in open relationships It is people who have morals Non-monogamy Exercise.
“At Tinder, we always encourage our members to complete their profiles and try to be as transparent and authentic as possible,” said Vicente Balbastre, Chief Communications Officer for Tinder. “Explore, in particular, encourages people to show their true identity, without filters, so that they can meet others who share similar interests.” Tinder calls this “hardcore”: being upfront on your bio about exactly what you’re looking for.
in Search from 2018 Investigate why people with partners use Tinder. The main reasons researchers have found is that busy people use Tinder to search for joins. In addition, people want to make an impression of their “market value”. In addition, non-individual users prefer a hands-off approach, and are more likely to be contacted by other users rather than taking the initiative themselves. About half of the non-singles surveyed said they had met someone from the app in person, while the other half didn’t feel the need to.
The study ends with a question – did people who cheat on Tinder cheat anyway, or does the app’s design increase the likelihood of infidelity? The researchers concluded that dating apps give cheaters a helping hand.
The “addictive elements” of the dating app – for example the scrolling functionality and the predominant visual aspect – cause many users to log in just for fun. In addition, the applications make it very easy to conduct instant meetings with potential partners. This creates a feeling that the show is almost limitless and makes it difficult for someone to accept only one partner.
Technology and human behavior are completely intertwined today, making it pointless to wonder if a partner would cheat in a world without dating apps. Humans have always had a hard time being single and always will be, no matter what true love tales society imposes on us.
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