Adult women who call themselves a ‘girl’: This can easily be pathetic, as can adult men who refer to themselves as a ‘boy’. It can be called coquettish, coquettish: I am a crazy person, I am not old, but still kind and loose. Don’t take me seriously. Or, as Marja Pruis (1959) wrote in angry girl. About women and friction: ‘Girl. The deficiency is latent. However, she does use the term as a mark of honor.
Who, then, are the bad girls in Prussia? Women who can be taken seriously, and who take themselves very seriously. Women who naturally take up space, ignoring everything that traditionally worries women. Who does not laugh just because it ought to be, but simply because they are cheerful, never muffle their voices and never indiscriminately apologize, so as not to offend anyone. Bruce himself is different: “I am hesitant at the traffic light. I still want a poster from the teacher. In my opinion I play the bass, in fact I am collegiate.
“Graceful and decent” is what is traditionally called the behavior described for women in the piece contributed by Eileen Montaigne. the outside. The role of women in appearanceCompiled by NRC editor Milou van Rossum (1965). It was the title of a book she got when she was twelve years old, a book she longed for, but was disappointed in: “in this book [bleken] The requirements for attractiveness and etiquette are perfectly aligned with each other. It was full of “warnings”: “To always be on time for the appointment, and not to whisper in company.” Montaigne, from whom she would love to read a thick book about her evolution from here, was looking for tips to be simply beautiful, how to make her hair shine, and look thinner. Beauty was her greatest good, as it is for most girls. Jamil was “a scale you always carried with you”. “Inner oppression,” she calls later: “You are enslaved, but you also want it.”
Be beautiful even though you are wiser
Wanting it yourself is an interesting issue that is always discussed, or at least briefly mentioned, in the documents at the outside. It turns out because all women want to be beautiful, even if they are wiser. Anja Meulenbelt prefers not to look in the mirror. Briggy Hofstede doing abdominal exercises alongside her boisterous baby: ‘I think I’m sorry about the sit-ups. I’m sorry that it makes you think later that you have to do sit-ups and that I pass these stupid sit-ups to you with a delay of about twelve years.
She, despite her own training, wants to save her daughter from the importance attached to appearance. “But I know I’m going to fail at this. You’ll want to live up to it, like everyone else. Because that sounds safe. You won’t recognize the greater insecurity of the base, like everyone else, until later. That’s well-crafted.”
the outside It concerns the desire to meet and deviate from the norm: this double pursuit is always united in one bosom. It’s about being obese, old, pierced or pregnant, and also about wearing the hijab and taking it off again. However, it has become a bit of a “sermons for your diocesan group”. There are no really perverted views, you do not read anything from, for example, advocates of plastic surgery.
It’s a bit one-sided that everyone pre-thinks that attachment to beauty is a no-no anyway. Xandra Schutte’s reflection, from a personal perspective, but also from a more historical one, has the most meat in the bones. Meanwhile, Manon Uphoff writes the most beautiful writing: “Living in me is a tough fellow who wants to get outside and move in the smooth elegance of a seal in the water, without wondering if you can take up so much space.”
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This ties in well with the angry Prussian girl. Turns out, her look isn’t a new phenomenon: Pruis’ bookshelves were already full of her. in angry girl It contains, for example, reflections on the works of Rachel Kosk, Renate Rubinstein, and Vivian Gornick. It’s an interesting, if not surprising, cut.
peace in your lap
Pruis, who has also written an article on the outsideShe also talks about other “angry girls” in her book, such as articles on Sigrid Kaag and Neelie Kroes. Those pieces in themselves are full of great notes and resulting ideas, and there’s also a sense of humor. However, they become difficult and very brainy at times. Pruis sometimes chooses very imposing words and here and there sums up her sentences too much. More fluid writing reads better.
whole unit angry girl Not substantial, so the question is what deviation from Sander Collards’ coronation? From the life of a dog With the 2020 Liberace Prize for Literature in it. The strongest are the moments when Bruce puts her hand in her lap, not drifting away, when she questions her own assumptions and opinions, ruthlessly and frankly. as the “angry girl” who dared to write it for years.
A version of this article also appeared in the June 17, 2022 newspaper