And talk about it, Huisman says. “Ask your child if there is already urine in his stomach and make potty sitting a part of the daily routine. If your child doesn’t like it at all: don’t resist him, because that’s how he develops resistance.”
In the Netherlands, if a child is four years old and goes to kindergarten, they must be formally toilet trained. Primary school may reject children if they are not yet able to go to the toilet on their own.
“If your child is near four and has not yet been toilet trained, it is wise to consider whether you have given him enough attention as a parent. If so, something else may be at play, for example constipation, which is interfering with the process of Toilet training. Babies feel the signals from their tummy less well, because they are squeezing so much.”
“Fear can also play a role: I regularly hear from parents that their children are afraid to leave it on during a bowel movement. It can help to first take the nappy to the toilet; allow your child to defecate in it and then empty the nappy together into the toilet: Your child does not intentionally defecate and urinate in his nappy.” Until three or four. So stay positive and keep compliments.”