Young children holding a banner against the Azaks in the street: ‘They didn’t bring that themselves’

Last Tuesday, it was announced that COA would buy ‘t Elshuys Hotel in Alsbergen to house asylum seekers. This is the first time the government has decided to do this without first striking an agreement with the municipality. The government is taking this step because there is a huge shortage of beds for asylum seekers and negotiations with municipalities are often difficult.

But the Cabinet decision erred in Tübergen. Yesterday even young children walked with a protest sign. “I hope very much that parents do not think carefully about sending their children out into the street with such a sign,” says child psychologist Neve.

“You can talk to the kids and think about bigger topics, look at all sides together and form an opinion, but that doesn’t seem to have happened here. And you don’t want to know how often these kinds of images are shared, everyone has an opinion on it, and those might benefit Children are also from that.”

“I think it’s really hot’

Neve says that children are by nature very empathetic. When they arrive at a center for asylum seekers, they will at most believe that the refugees are coming, and therefore have fled and need help. “What’s happening here with the kids walking down the street with signs right after the news is a reaction from the parents. It wasn’t really thought through. I find it hard. I think it’s really hot.”

One mother also mentioned that her children in the future will no longer be able to exercise on their own. Her fear can be clearly seen in the video below:

Paul Van Lange, Professor of Social Psychology, also saw the photos. “Emotions were the deciding factor here,” he says. “He probably thought it was the most persuasive in that way.”

People become more united and stable

Fan Lang looks at it scientifically. “It’s an expansion of what’s happening within the group. It means that solidarity and unity are increasing. And that was really great in societies like Albergen.”

“When people talk to each other about a particular topic, they often become more united and consistent. They are increasingly converging. This is what scientific research has often shown. There may have been differences of opinion in Albergen in the beginning, but those differences are now smaller.”

“Don’t put your fear on the children.”

Van Lange says of the concerns of some that cycling alone would not be possible for children. “Certainty is complemented by fear. Fear can also be amplified if people talk too much about what might happen.”

Nephi sees fear in the mother and points out that as a parent, you really have to pay attention to how you deal with it. “Before you take your children with you in emotional or hot situations, it is especially important that you take your children with you only when your feelings are in control and you figure out how to discuss them with them as best you can,” he says.

“First, capture your own feelings, feel those feelings, repack yourself and then go back to reality and facts. Then you can talk to the kids and be there for your kids, otherwise you project your fears and strong opinions to your kids.”

Last night two men also brought another sign to the venue that was racist in nature. Passers-by immediately intervened and removed him. According to a passerby, this was not the message the Albergen residents wanted to convey. “We are against the arrival of a center for asylum seekers of this magnitude, but certainly not against foreigners. We immediately addressed the boys who brought this sign.” The board was the following:

The government’s approach feeds fear

Van Lange thinks the photos of the crowds and fights at the registration center at Ter Apel don’t help the situation in Albergen either. “How the government cannot provide for the basic needs of the people there is very sad.”

In this way, the government’s approach fuels fear in the village, Van Lang believes. There was little consultation about the arrival of the center for asylum seekers in Albergen. The decision was pushed through. “In Albergen they have the feeling that they are being attacked by the government. Not necessarily by the asylum seekers’ center, but at least with the same force because of the way the decision was imposed. This feels unfair and makes the community more united.”

Thank God they are not in school.

At the same time, there are still many people who think the situation is more accurate, says Van Lang. In Albergen they were not against the arrival of a center for asylum seekers at all, and now there is an uproar about the number of refugees coming their way. “The government has already put bad blood in Albergen, which is a wrong signal for all of Holland. Discussions must continue, not only about Albergen, but also especially about the appalling situation at Ter Apel.”

So perhaps the feeling in Albergen can be explained and still has to be discussed with all parties, and child psychiatrist Neve is not at all happy with how a number of children are now victims of this.

“This is not what we want to pass on to the children”

“Thank God they are not in school today. Then they may have immediately encountered the images that went viral on the Internet that many people are thinking of now,” says the child psychiatrist.

In fact, what you say is reinforced by children: Neve: “It’s good to realize that children often pick up on what parents often say to each other or to other adults in their feelings. They are in control of their emotions and often complement what they receive, so if you as a parent vent your fear and hear A child has shrapnel from it, he can show that all refugees are bad and that they can no longer play in the street when these people come. It is not what we want passed on to the children.”

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