84% of kids are allowed to appear on screen every day

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From cell phones to televisions, screens are intertwined with our lives and the lives of our children. It was clear that the topic of digital upbringing was still alive through the response: more than 600 mothers were outspoken about fears, doubts, and mistakes, but also about the blessing of virtual licorice.

There are few mothers who honestly admit that their little one does not stick to the indicative deadlines of one hour a day. Except for the large Kek Mama KPN digital survey in which more than 600 mothers with children up to the age of 12 took part and gave honest answers.

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Participating mothers almost unanimously (96%) indicated that they would like to raise their children digitally. Even at least 78% thought that not allowing a child to appear on screen was out of date. After all, we can no longer ignore the digital world now that more and more schools are working with IWBs and teaching aids. But digitization is also starting at home. 82% of us have four or more screens at home, and 8% have more than ten screens. This mainly concerns interactive displays such as tablets, laptops, smartphones, and game consoles.

78% of moms think it’s too late to not leave a child on screen

The vast majority of children, no less than 84%, are allowed to appear on screen every day. Sunita, 33, mother of Jordan (8), says of it: “Like it or not, computers belong in today’s world. I kept short at home, and wasn’t allowed to do anything with technology or the internet until I was fifteen. of my age. This had a very negative impact, both in school and in my social life.”

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Annabella, 30, Roef’s mother, 7, wrote: “If we ban him completely, I think his focus on that will increase. This is the future and Roef will have to be able to handle him at school. It makes it good that he already knows how to work.” what is it. “

“We teach them how to protect themselves, just as we do with road safety”

Kim (37), mother of Emma (12) and Lena (10): “Growing up in the digital age involves risks. She never explained the risks to me. I think it’s important for my children to learn to use the Internet safely. My friend and I teach them how to protect themselves. and others, just as we do with road safety.”

moments of rest

In addition to educational motivation, self-reliance and current time, comfort is also a very critical factor, according to the survey. Nearly six in ten readers (58%) admit that a screen is also an ideal way to keep kids calm or quiet in a restaurant or airplane. Because of course you can entertain your child with a coloring book or a game, but sometimes the child is tired or bored and half an hour of paw patrol is more effective.

Or as Rosalie, 37, a mother of three-year-old twins, sighed: “Since they no longer take afternoon naps, I find it difficult to set break times for the girls one day. narrow memory or Bomba ABC They’re still sitting on the tablet.”

58% of moms admit that the screen is also a way to keep their kids calm

This is also the reason why readers now and then leave the reins and ignore the target times set more or less by themselves or by teachers.

Lisa, 37, a mother of three, created a maximum screen time to prevent her kids from spending the whole day on a tablet or PC after school or during the holidays. “They get an hour, sometimes a little longer, for example on a day off or on a rainy day. They are always allowed to watch a full movie on Friday evenings, but we don’t count it.”

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guiding rules

Educators have developed general guidelines about screen times. It is very strict and tight. For example, they advise children up to two years old to never look at screens. This is not suitable for their development – exercise, food and sleep will be better.

However, readers think about this more easily: 70% let her child watch a movie for 1-2 hours every day. 12% do it for three to four hours. Comfort is also a big factor here. Demi (27), mother of Poppy (11 months): “When I go to cook I put my daughter in a hammock kids tv† I’m afraid she will fall asleep if I put her in the box at dinner time, that will drag her through the difficult evening. In addition, I have my hands free.”

“If your child sleeps enough, hangs out with friends, plays and performs at school and sports, he can also play for a few hours.”

By the way, there are also experts who question the need to adjust screen times. They say you can look much better at balance in a child’s life: if he or she sleeps enough, hangs out with friends, plays, and performs at school and sports, he can also play for a few hours. There is no need for a time limit per se.

Don’t always be the bogeyman

Fortunately, our readers don’t respond to the politically correct answers in the survey, but they do tell them frankly how things are going at home. For example, more than a quarter (27%) of all eight- to nine-year-olds spend three to four hours a day behind a curtain, while the parenting experts mentioned above believe an hour and a half is more than enough.

62% of mothers play digital games with children

Candid answers are given: “Otherwise there will be no land to sail with them”, “I want to sleep on weekends”, “When we visit and there are no other children” and “After that I can take the youngest child unimpeded (chest) for feeding. But also The times when working from home was promoted and you didn’t have time to spend hours with your child, Lego or the Quartet were often an argument for a few extra hours on the tablet.

Sarah (39), mother of Job (12), Aoki (10) and Evie (7), admits it candidly: She has no backbone when it comes to screen time: “I don’t want to be a bogeyman when it comes to begging. So go ahead, game or Another movie. But, to justify this, it is often necessary for the school. ”

This is also evident from the survey; 16% of children use a screen for school. This does not compare to other apps: watching a video (47%), playing games (27%) or social media (6%).

correct example

91% of readers answered a resounding yes to the phrase “As a parent, you have to set a good example and use your screen in front of your child.” But is this also true if we check it out? Uh. Then it seems we tend to quickly check social media between one another or participate in an episode of a series on the tablet – even in front of the kids.

“After a full day of cleaning up and taking care of myself, I just want to hang out for a while and do nothing”

Nearly half of women say they spend one to two hours a day looking at a screen while their children are around it. Even two out of ten do it for three to four hours. Charmaine (29), mother of Florine (3.5): “After a whole day of cleaning up and taking care of my daughter and staying with her, I also want to hang out for a while and do nothing. Then I put Flo next to me on the couch with YouTube and scroll myself through my own timeline Bee or Candy Crush. Great time for me.”

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only with permission

Just because Kek Mama readers can be a little generous when it comes to screen time, it doesn’t mean we’re easy on what our child does or doesn’t see. Anyway, 83% of kids are only allowed to use a tablet, phone or computer with permission, and we keep a close eye on what (young) kids are doing on the screen. Only 29% have tablet apps suitable for children. A quarter (24%) always watch and listen, or do so occasionally (27%). 12% regularly checks search history.

Most moms are very assertive about communicating with others online: only 16% think it’s OK, 16% block it, and 66% set it up so that it isn’t possible. There are many parental controls for Android (Google Family Link App) or Apple (Parental Control App Kidslox) which are very useful to add to your phone. 89% of our readers have access to all the apps their kids download via this plug-in or the child’s account.

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Otherwise, parents have rules like: ‘Only via Whatsapp and only with children who are in her contacts. No strangers “,”We can check text messages at all times “,”Don’t say hurtful things to others “,”No more texting after 7 p.m. If something is said not well or nice, show it to us “,”Don’t Never forward personal information, say where you live, or send photos.”

Up to the age of eight, about 80% of children are under the control of their parents

There is a high degree of supervision of up to eight years. About 80% were examined. Kids over the age of 12 only need to ask permission and only 57% of parents can still see what they see. It might just be an adjustment every now and then. Hoping that children will already become digitally wise that they know very well what is wise and what is not.

This article can be found on Kek Mama 07-2021.

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