Mariki never wants a relationship with the wrong guy again

“Honestly, I loved Ferry’s attention at first. He put me on a pedestal and kept repeating how beautiful and wonderful he thought I was, and how crazy he was about me. I had been single for nine years when I met him and certainly not urgently looking for a new partner, but he was He has something special. I met him at a festival in our village, we stood side by side at the bar to order a beer. We chatted spontaneously, the first thing I noticed was a big smile. We chatted for a long time, then I gave him my phone number and went home. I thought I I’ll never hear from it again, I suppose, but the next day it started raining letters. Now wisely I think: If only I had never reacted to it.”

Adores

“A week after we met, we had our first date. We went on a nice ride on his motorbike. Ferry had already invited me to the festival, but then I said I wasn’t brave at all. It became kind of like I’d bet as Ferri promised me it wasn’t scary to fall behind I let myself be persuaded, and he was right. The ride was great and I loved being so close to him. We had coffee somewhere along the way. Suddenly grabbed it was like lightning struck. Bam, I was in love.”

“Ferry gave me her full attention and immediately went over to me, while I was totally on guard. The ex-daddy of my three kids was very controlling and jealous. I hated it, like this guy ‘never wanted it again.'” But Ferry was very nice to me. He wanted to be with me a lot and told me he wanted to take it seriously with me. He was also very nice to my kids, which I thought was very important. “

“However, there were also things that soon gave me a strange sensation. For example, that Fairey was going really fast. Just two months later I imagined a big wedding and buying a beautiful house on the water together. My oldest daughter had asked me this sooner than I did. Watch out for him.”

“I understood what she meant, but I was in love and I thought he was very excited. What I thought was crazy is that Ferry always comes at set times and leaves again. He never stays and after three months I can’t remember where he lived. When I asked him about it, He said that his daughter is autistic and therefore needs this firm structure. And that she has had to get used to new people, which is why I haven’t been able to visit him yet. I think so, because why is anyone lying about it? I thought he was a kind and anxious father.”

humiliation

“We were together for seven months when I volunteered to help out at a King’s Day event as a first aid volunteer. We asked Ferry five times if I really couldn’t come to a parade in his village. I couldn’t, I won’t be ready until late, but at the end of some In the afternoon, another volunteer said that there was a man who inquired about me and asked what time I would be there, and I asked what that man looked like and showed a picture of Fairy, my colleague confirmed that it was he who inquired about me.

‘I thought this procedure was very strange, and my colleague said afterwards that I could leave earlier, it was still quiet. I cycled to Ferry village to talk to him and first went into the snack bar to get something to eat.’ I looked around the store and suddenly saw Ferry sitting at a table with another woman whom I did not know, but perhaps his sister or an acquaintance.”

“This is my friend,” I said to my acquaintance. He reacted stunned and said that Ferry was married to that woman at his table. The ground fell from under my feet. No daughter was ever autistic, which is why he never slept and I never came to his house. I felt angry, disappointed and sad. Then I went up to him and patted his back and said, “You’re here too?” The phrase turned bright red, then shook the hand of the woman who had already introduced herself as his wife. I wished them a good evening and walked away. How insulted I was.”

abuse

Ferry kept texting and calling me afterward, which drove me crazy. So I decided to start the conversation to hear his explanation. The phrase came and threw it into his company: He couldn’t get a divorce because his wife would get divorced then. Half of their marriage was nothing. , it was a brother and sister affair, he cried tears and begged me to stay with him so that he was willing to leave his wife now I can take care of myself but I gave in. I felt sorry for him because he had been trapped in a loveless marriage with “that witch”, as he called his wife, for so long “.

“We kept seeing each other, but less often because I needed time and distance to sort things out. Ferry had a hard time accepting that. Then he became angry and I constantly got calls and texts that he wanted to see me. That became a pattern: things went well between us. For a few weeks, but the moment I did not give him what he wanted – and then I had already agreed to something with a girlfriend and there was no time for him – he became angry. ”

“Slowly, I felt he was controlling me. He manipulated me and made me financially dependent on him. I worked, but I struggled financially as a divorced mother with three children. He took advantage of it. He took advantage of Ferry once and bought me a new TV, sofa and phone. During the quarrels he was He throws them at me. According to him, I was ungrateful, though I had never asked for these things. Purchasing things was something he attached to me.”

“One morning we were going to a fair together. In the morning I went for a walk with the dog, and I also had to take a shower and have breakfast. And it seems Ferry texted me again, but I didn’t see those messages. He started the car screaming why did he give me such an expensive phone? If I didn’t do anything to him, he was utterly terrified and unable to think about his behavior when he stopped at a gas station and came in to pay, I walked briskly. No for a second, I wanted to sit in the car with him. I hurried to the bus stop, where I retreated behind a table in The restaurant when I saw Ferry’s car. He was looking for me of course.”

to chase

“That was enough for me, I told Fairy that I didn’t want to see him anymore. It was now clear to me that he wouldn’t leave his wife and, to be honest, I didn’t need that anymore. I finished him, and that’s when the chase really started. I He drove by my house or work, which I thought was crazy because I was working irregular hours. When I was swimming somewhere with the kids, Ferry suddenly appeared there. I walked with the dog in the woods, and then “accidentally” he was there too. It gave me a feeling suffocation and strangeness.”

“One day I was talking about it with a dealer friend. He asked me if I always move the same way. I answered that I did everything with the bike. He advised me to check my bike well, because perhaps hidden there was a GPS tracker. That same evening I almost completely disassembled my bike, And under my saddle I found a tracker like that. It wasn’t supposed to surprise me, but I didn’t expect Ferry to go that far. It was weird.”

“I reported a stalking and withheld Ferry’s number. But he continued to drive, both at my house and at work. Then I called him again and threatened to tell his wife everything, because I had enough evidence from us. From that moment on he became calm, fortunately.”

“Of course I often wondered why I kept seeing Ferry for a year and a half. It’s hard to explain such a toxic relationship to strangers. It’s like walking into a trap, you feel like you can’t escape and there’s no going back and sometimes we’re fine for weeks, then I hope against my best judgment on That the misery is over and that we can never have a good time together I don’t want a man cheating, manipulating me and harassing me like that later I learned through that I wasn’t his first lover and he still tried to hit women What a smooth ass he’d never want to be ‘the other woman’ I’m not even looking for a relationship anymore. That might sound rude, but my trust in guys is really zero. I’d rather be alone.”

The names in this article have changed. Marieki’s real name is known to the editors.

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