Why would you say you think motherhood is hard

The politically correct mother mafia is coming for you

There is a Dutch writer who regularly writes articles about her motherhood. And about how hot it sometimes. She jokes and whines about it, and says some rude things, but always ends with something like, “But I love them so much,” or “I’m so grateful for my boys.” If you don’t, the politically correct mother mafia will come to you. Saying it’s hard for you is not normal. Somehow people get very angry about it. It seems that loving your children, but sometimes the whole of motherhood, just can’t coexist. If you say that sometimes you don’t like it at all, you can also put your kids in the trash, because apparently they are so much worthless. We are not following the golden mean in this case. You’re a happy mama always, or a whiny bitch who shouldn’t have children. Holland is a champion at peeing but not when it comes to motherhood.

on our gums

Can someone explain to me what the exact problem is? Why does everyone instantly get a muscle spasm when Mommy talks about what it’s really like? what’s wrong with that? Why is it such a bad thing if you sometimes sigh that you think it’s hard work? That you’re on your gums after years of broken nights, and that you don’t really enjoy dealing with a 3-year-old in the middle of a kid’s day in the daytime. That you’re disappointed that you don’t have a moment to yourself, that there are always so few hours in the day, that your relationship is in a slump and that you sometimes wonder when you’ll become less busy again. What you are saying is that you find it difficult sometimes. no more. Could it be just this? I think so.

Beautiful, but also hard work

It is not at all necessary to always say that you love your children very much and that they are an enrichment for your life. Of course they are. Of course you love them. Any fool can imagine that a mother loves her children very much. She never wants to lose them and she enjoys motherhood. But does that mean she should never find it difficult? What is this nonsense. And that’s exactly why so many women teeter on the edge of stress. Because we don’t accept motherhood for what it is: beautiful, enriching, grateful, but also hard-working, insecure and too heavy.

Constantly keeping up with appearances

“It’s worth it,” “you get a lot in return.” Yes, yes, blah blah, we know. But I just felt like all those tired moms would get more acceptance with a little more acceptance than those kind of winners. As a result, they feel that they are not allowed to feel what they are feeling. They are weird and should be ashamed of themselves. And that’s what burns you, not so much from these kids, but from always keeping up with appearances. Feeling the need to do it perfectly, otherwise you will fall off a pedestal. You don’t always have to say that you love your children, you have to constantly emphasize how to enrich your life and how blessed you are as a mother. You know, you feel it. its enough. You are enough. More than enough even. Even if you have enough of it regularly.

You are not ungrateful

You choose many things in life. Even for most things. You choose your partner, you choose your job, you choose your friends, you choose your home, and yes, most of the time you choose your children too. But the fact that you choose something for yourself does not mean that you are always happy with it. It is not necessary. Sometimes you are disappointed with your work, sometimes you can no longer broadcast or see your partner, and sometimes you are upset about something in your house. And sometimes you also feel bad for your children. You can say that, that doesn’t make you ungrateful or “mother meow”. This makes you a little different from just a human being. And mothers, these are just human beings. If only we accept it, it will save a lot of fatigue.

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